TRADE-OFF

Seeking advise from someone who has not yet been involved in an intimate relationship? A friend of mine just did it... to ME.

We've been friends for three years now, I guess, and it is not the first time she sought love advise from me. Being the inexperienced in this field, it is really kinda bizarre comforting and encouraging someone based on plainly NOTHING. But, what the heck? It is worth the try.

And so they broke up. She left my friend (who happens to be a GIRL, also). She left her the time when she had found another one. She left her when my friend was finally ready to equate her love with the affection she has given her.

When my friend and I had the chance to talk, she is ready to move on. Leaving the past behind, she wants to enjoy being single and pamper herself until the right one comes along. But, moving on is kinda rough on her as her ex-girlfriend still doesn't want to lose communication. How worse can it get? Being left all alone and still living with the shadow of someone you have loved. Escaping is not an option, it is a weakness. The more you escape the ghost, the more it will haunt you.

Let all the pain hit you until it doesn't hurt anymore. Cry. Drain all the emotions you're feeling towards the one who destroyed you until you don' feel anything for them anymore. Witness your world as it crashes down in front of you but, DON'T EVER GIVE UP. Learn from mistakes and treasure experiences. Do not let solitude overwhelm you. Until you got over with your past can you begin your present and subsequently, your future. You may have lose her, but you've gained more. Sometimes, losing someone is the way so you can welcome someone better in.

These are thoughts I have said to her and I will say over and over if I had to. Harsh some of it may be, but if that would help her move on, then so be it.